I am sitting on my couch soaking up the last few hours of 2013. For reals, I am so happy to say goodbye to this year. It was one of the hardest ones for my personal life, and one that really made me question who I am as a person and what my values are. I learned a lot about myself, and even though 2013 blew, I came out a stronger person for it. I learned a valuable lesson – I need to love myself in order to love those around me.

This year instead of resolving to lose 30 pounds (again), to be more organized, or to get up earlier in the morning, I am setting my intentions on loving myself more. When I began loving myself for who I am and what I am, so many things became clear to me.

I am right where I need to be. I am doing just fine. 

My marriage is strong. My children are a joy. My business is growing and taking new direction. I took risks and invested in myself. We made big family decisions. My home is filled with love. I just needed to be kinder to myself in order to see this and to make things happen.

2014 holds so much promise. A new calendar year provides so much hope for the future. I love this holiday so much because I really feel like I wake up on January 1st I have a clean slate. What I don’t like is the messaging from just about everywhere that you need to change who you are. I can’t look at Facebook or social media today without feeling like there is something wrong with me or something that I need to change.

Lose weight!

Eat clean!

Clean up your mess!

Purge!

You are a mess!

You are fat!

Paleo!

Gluten-free!

You are not healthy enough!

What I ask of you for this new year is to remember that you are absolutely perfect just as you are. You are right where you need to be. 

Now, I am not saying that you shouldn’t set goals for yourself or set intentions. I wholeheartedly believe in self-improvement and growth. I am just asking that you remember that you are amazing. And maybe “fixing” yourself is not the answer. Loving yourself as you are is.