this is 38

You know, there was a time when 38 sounded really old to me. Being in your 30’s meant babies, mortgages, having a real job, and being like – a real grown up. The idea freaked me out. I had so much fear. Of everything.

I have no idea what I was so scared of. Being in my 30’s is the best. I don’t think that I can truly articulate how much calm and self-assurance I have now, that I surely didn’t have in my 20’s.

I am comfortable in my own skin and sure of who I am.

I turned 38 this week so I am going to share 38 things that I know to be true. These were off the top of my head.

1. Change is good. So good.

2. Being nice takes a lot less effort than being mean.

3. I can’t wear a smoky eye. It just looks silly.

4. YA trilogies are my guilty pleasure. Divergent, The Hunger Games, Twilight to name a few.

5. Unfollow on Facebook. Best. Thing. Ever.

6. Life is too short to drink shitty wine. Or shitty coffee.

7. It is totally okay to not finish something even when it feels like you should follow through.

8. Being happy everyday is a choice.

9. The 5 people that live in my house are my #1 priority. No apologies.

10. You are going to make people unhappy or disappointed. It is usually more about them than it is about you.

11. Dreams and goals are important. You need something to look forward to and work towards.

12. You can’t do it alone. You need support.

13. Asking for help is really hard. But sometimes you gotta do it.

14. The Grammys really make me feel old. Being 38 doesn’t.

15. I don’t respond well to being told what to do. If you want something from me, just ask. It also helps when you say please.

16. Marriage is the best. And the hardest. All rolled into one.

17. Kind, generous, and loving children have kind, generous, and loving parents. They are what they see.

18. Adventures are always a good idea. Even when they aren’t.

19. This is the only body you’ve got, take good care of her.

20. Say no more than you say yes. Unless the yes is to something amazing, inspiring, or helps you achieve your dreams.

21. I’m not a planner, but I always have a plan.

22. It is 100% acceptable to lay on the couch and binge watch shows on Netflix. Even if it is sunny outside.

23. Wear nice pajamas. Lose the college t-shirts and sweat pants.

24. Say you’re sorry. And be sincere.

25. Buy clothes that actually fit.

26. You don’t need a lot of friends, you just need a few really good ones.

27. Eat dinner together as a family. Make it a non-negotiable.

28. Be fiercely protective of your time.

29. Live your life in a way that reflects your values.

30. Don’t spend so much time caring about what other people think of you.

31. Forgive. Even when it is really hard. And when you don’t want to do it.

32. I’m never going to like foods that I can’t chew. Sorry yogurt.

33. Pay attention to the details.

34. You never really know what is really going on in someone else’s life.

35. You have everything you need. Right now.

36. Don’t engage crazy. It is futile and exhausting.

37. You can’t change people. But you can alter your expectations of them. It makes everything easier for everyone.

38. Never stop learning.

What are the things that you have learned as you get older? What would you tell your younger self if you had the chance?