DIY Iced Coffee Bar – homemade flavored coffee syrups that make your iced coffee something special. Share them with a new friend.
One of my goals for this year is to make more friends. We move all the time. I love moving (I really do), but the hardest part for me is finding a new group of friends each time. The kids meet lots of friends from school and sports, and my husband meets lot of people from work. Me, I work from home and it can be isolating. People don’t come knocking on my door to be friends with strangers. I have to make the effort and put myself out there. Literally and figuratively.
As my kids have gotten older, it has been harder to meet mom friends. When they were little it was easy to chat up the mom pushing the swing next to you. Or the mom that you met in your playgroup. You have something in common to talk about – you are in the trenches, in the thick of new motherhood. You bond over diapers and sleepless nights. Some of the most valued friendships in my life where made in that new mom haze.
It’s different now. When your kids are in school all day, you aren’t at playgroup or pushing swings. I work for myself in my home. I can go days without speaking to someone who doesn’t have the same last name as I do. I used to sit around and feel bad for myself. It can be lonely. I’ve decided that this is no longer okay with me. The pity party I was having was not serving me. If I wanted to not feel this way, it was up to me to do something about it.
Making new friends is a lot like dating. You need to work up the courage to talk to someone. You need to have the awkward “first date”. You are maybe not going to click with someone the way you thought, or maybe you will. You just never know until you put yourself out there.
I promise you, it is so worth it.
So, where can you meet new friends?
- Move your body – I’ve met some great people at fitness classes or yoga. Not only will you feel better because you just exercised, but it is an opportunity to get out of the house and talk to people. Be brave and ask someone to coffee after class.
- Join a group or take a class – The people there have a common interest with you, they are also interested in the subject enough to be there. Chat up the person sitting next to you. Bring cookies or muffins to the next class, be friendly.
- Volunteer – Spend some time helping others and there is a good chance you will meet someone else that shares the same values and cares about the same causes.
- Coffee shops – See another lady working on a laptop? Say hi and see what kind of business she has. Ask her questions about her business.
- Have a get-together – One of the best ways I have found to meet people is to invite them over for an informal get-together. It doesn’t have to be a big deal (like my DIY Iced Coffee Bar), but it is nice to meet people in a comfortable setting. Start a book club, knitting circle, or have a party for no reason at all.
This year I had a “cinnamon roll & mimosa” party after we sent our kids to school on the first day. I told everyone that I invited to bring a friend, the more the merrier. I had a house full of amazing women and met some new people, and so did the people I invited. It was an easy party to plan, execute and cost me less than $50. It was a great morning. And will now be an annual event.
The most important thing to remember is that when you meet someone you like, you need to act on it. I know that people are busy, but the “we should get together sometime” isn’t going to happen unless you actually make plans. Instead, say “let’s meet for coffee on Wednesday afternoon.” And then show up.
Having friends and a support system is worth the effort that you make to have them. So do it, make it happen.
Click over Dixie Crystals and find my recipe for Cold Brew Coffee & 5 Homemade Coffee Syrups.