No More Complaining

Yesterday I was at the grocery store shopping for my husband’s birthday dinner. When I went into the store the skies were clear. When I came out, it was a torrential downpour. I did not have time to wait it out, I had to get back home to get the kids from the school bus. I had to just book it across the parking lot with a cart full of groceries. Those balloons coming out of my head almost blew away and I was soaked to the bone. My cardigan was drenched and my hair dripping. I was cold and uncomfortable.

There was a time when I would have moaned and complained about it. It would have set the tone for the entire day. These days I have adopted a no-complaining policy. It can be really hard to not complain sometimes, it is easier to voice your unhappiness than it is to find the good in your present situation. Being negative and complaining all the time can be incredibly draining. Not only for you, but the people around you. This morning I was on Facebook and the first 10 statuses were complaints. Is that any way to start a day? When you do not allow yourself to complain, it forces you to be altogether more positive, but also more resourceful.

I want you to try a little exercise. Pay attention to how many times in a day you complain. If you can – tally it up and see how many complaints you have at the end of the day. I will bet that you will be surprised at how many times you are negative throughout the day. The next day I want you to reframe your thinking when a complaint pops into your head. Stop and try and find a positive. It can be challenging, but I promise, you find yourself feeling lighter and happier.

How can you start to change your thinking from negative to positive?


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  • I’m loving these posts, Bree. My husband sort of got me in to talk radio and once I heard a segment in a series called the happiness hour, and the host was talking about how people who are happy CHOOSE to be happy. They smile more and make an effort to be happy and make the people around them happy. I find when I really, really focus on trying NOT to complain, I’m happier, the kids are happier, and my husband is happier. The scary part is how difficult it is to go a whole day without complaining about anything.

    This post is such a great reminder. Today is going to be a no-complain day for me! 🙂 Thanks Bree!

    • Thank you Rachel! I am a big podcast fan. 🙂 Yes, happy people choose to be happy, no doubt in my mind. It is hard to not complain, but even making the effort to complain less is a step in the right direction.

  • Such an awesome mindset! Last year, I read 1000 gifts, by Ann Voscamp. It is really good! Getting in the practice of being thankful for the little things, really helps me not to complain.

    • I need to read that book, you are the second person to mention it to me this week.


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