Yesterday I was at the grocery store shopping for my husband’s birthday dinner. When I went into the store the skies were clear. When I came out, it was a torrential downpour. I did not have time to wait it out, I had to get back home to get the kids from the school bus. I had to just book it across the parking lot with a cart full of groceries. Those balloons coming out of my head almost blew away and I was soaked to the bone. My cardigan was drenched and my hair dripping. I was cold and uncomfortable.
There was a time when I would have moaned and complained about it. It would have set the tone for the entire day. These days I have adopted a no-complaining policy. It can be really hard to not complain sometimes, it is easier to voice your unhappiness than it is to find the good in your present situation. Being negative and complaining all the time can be incredibly draining. Not only for you, but the people around you. This morning I was on Facebook and the first 10 statuses were complaints. Is that any way to start a day? When you do not allow yourself to complain, it forces you to be altogether more positive, but also more resourceful.
I want you to try a little exercise. Pay attention to how many times in a day you complain. If you can – tally it up and see how many complaints you have at the end of the day. I will bet that you will be surprised at how many times you are negative throughout the day. The next day I want you to reframe your thinking when a complaint pops into your head. Stop and try and find a positive. It can be challenging, but I promise, you find yourself feeling lighter and happier.
How can you start to change your thinking from negative to positive?